Do You Feel Like You’re Always Giving in Relationships, but Never Truly Seen?
Do You Feel Like You’re Always Giving in Relationships, but Never Truly Seen?
You bend, compromise, and shrink yourself to keep the peace. You pour so much into others, hoping for connection, yet deep down, you’re left feeling unheard, unseen, and disconnected from who you really are.
The good news? You’re not crazy, and you’re not needy. You’re simply stuck in a pattern—a learned behavior that’s no longer serving you. But here’s the truth: that pattern doesn’t define you, and you have the power to change it.
It’s time to break free and reclaim the love, peace, and respect you truly deserve.
The Science Behind the Pattern
Our subconscious mind governs over 95% of our thoughts, feelings, and actions. Much of what we believe about ourselves and how we navigate relationships stems from early experiences and learned behaviors.
Dr. Bruce Lipton, a leading expert in the field of epigenetics, explains that the subconscious mind is programmed between the ages of 0-7. During this time, we absorb messages about love, worthiness, and relationships from our caregivers, culture, and environment. If you grew up in an environment where love felt conditional or where peace was maintained by silencing your needs, these patterns may still be playing out in your adult relationships.
Your subconscious seeks familiarity—even if that familiarity doesn’t serve you. This is why you might find yourself in repeated cycles of overgiving, shrinking, or tolerating disrespect in relationships.
Why This Matters
When you give endlessly without being seen or heard, you reinforce the belief that your needs and feelings don’t matter. Over time, this leads to:
Emotional exhaustion and burnout
A loss of identity
Resentment and frustration
Difficulty trusting yourself and others
But here’s the empowering part: your subconscious mind is programmable. By introducing new, empowering beliefs and taking intentional action, you can rewrite the script and create healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
A Simple Process to Reclaim Your Voice and Power
Breaking free from these patterns doesn’t require drastic changes overnight. Instead, it’s about consistently showing up for yourself in small but meaningful ways. Here’s a process to help you get started:
1. Awareness: Identify the Pattern
Reflect on your relationships. Do you often feel unheard, unseen, or undervalued? Write down examples where you’ve compromised your needs or silenced your voice.
Ask yourself: What belief might be driving this behavior? For example, do you believe you have to earn love by giving?
2. Reframe the Belief
Once you’ve identified the limiting belief, reframe it into an empowering one. For example:
Limiting belief: I have to give to be loved.
Empowering belief: I am worthy of love simply because I exist.
Repeat this new belief daily, especially during moments when you’re tempted to fall back into old patterns.
3. Practice Daily Self-Connection
Journaling: Spend 5-10 minutes each day journaling your feelings and desires. This helps you reconnect with your inner voice.
Stillness: Sit quietly and focus on your breath. As thoughts arise, observe them without judgment, and bring your attention back to your heart center.
Affirmations: Look in the mirror and say, I am worthy. My voice matters. I honor myself every day.
4. Set Small, Loving Boundaries
Start by saying “no” to one thing this week that doesn’t serve you.
Practice expressing a need or desire in a safe relationship. For example, instead of agreeing to plans you don’t want, say, I’d prefer to stay in and rest tonight.
5. Celebrate Small Wins
Each time you honor your feelings or set a boundary, take a moment to acknowledge it. These small wins build trust with yourself and reinforce new patterns.
An Inspiring Reminder
As Marianne Williamson beautifully said:
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us."
You are powerful beyond measure. The moment you start honoring yourself and your needs, you’ll notice a profound shift not only in how you feel but in how others respond to you.
Final Thoughts
Reclaiming your voice and breaking free from old patterns is a journey of self-discovery and healing. Start small by creating daily moments of connection with yourself. Honor your feelings, reframe limiting beliefs, and take intentional steps toward the love and respect you deserve.
Remember, the way you love and honor yourself sets the tone for every other relationship in your life. You have the power to transform your relationships from the inside out—one step at a time.
Are you ready to begin?
Apply for an Empowerment Breakthrough Session with me and learn how to rewire your subconscious, honor your needs, and create the fulfilling relationships you deserve. Let’s take this transformative journey together.
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